To be with the truthful

did-you-kno: Source

Sun, 26 May 2013 03:02:07 +0530

did-you-kno:

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Was e-rocki serious when she said she was going to unfollow you?

Sun, 26 May 2013 02:55:50 +0530

I don’t know. Why don’t you ask e-rocki? I don’t keep a track of my followers.

Wear your scars like jewels

Sun, 26 May 2013 02:54:36 +0530

Wear your scars like jewels:

honeymanifesto:

rzvzee:

I am telling you this because I wish someone had told me this.
Girls, when you get in your early 20s it’s important for you to get married. Do not delay your marriage. If you get a good proposal say yes! Don’t reject good boys by giving stupid excuses.
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I realize this is from a sincere and heartfelt place so I just wanted to give my opinion on what you have expressed in the same manner. So please, while I am critical of what you have posted, don’t take this as an attack, because I’m speaking from personal experience, so I hope you understand, InshAllah.

When I turned 18, I went on a trip to India and Dubai to visit some relatives. During this trip I got several marriage proposals, one of which my family (aunts and uncles, including parents) were really adamant on following through. It was a totally arranged situation and personally, the entire experience was really foreign to me, I honestly didn’t want anything other than to go to college, so after quite some resistance, I refused.

My mom really supported my decision and she shielded me when I most needed her. I’m 24 now and I still get nagged on for that decision. People act like it’s the stupidest mistake I’ve ever made, when in that time, I’ve completed my Bachelor’s and have started my Master’s and could not have been more happy with the person I have been allowed to grow into.

It’s completely true that you can pursue an education after marriage. My own mother did. She went back to school when I was 12 and worked on two degrees within 6 years.It’s possible. But only she knows how much she had to sacrifice to get there. Why can’t women be allotted the same dignity as men in terms of education and career pursuits, without meeting resistance from the community?

It’s true that settling down at a younger age helps later on with fertility and other matters, but I feel that the priority for a stable marriage is to have two mature, well-rounded individuals. I was nowhere ready at 19 to find my husband. Like, even now, I’m careful. Girls should feel safe that they are free to mature, emotionally, mentally, and physically before they are thrown into these situations.

I feel like this mentality commodofies women in an already exploitative society. Us women shouldn’t have to sacrifice our right to an education at the right time for us, out of fear that aging a few years will make us less desirable. It’s not fair. It really isn’t. Men don’t keep the same in consideration, do they?

I agree that when you think like this you are com-modifying women in a way. What I have said is the sad truth of our society.
Aging does make women less desirable- in the arranged marriage market atleast.
I am the biggest critic of arranged marriage. Actually, I hate the system. But that’s how we muslims go about it and that’s how it’s done. And we have to be realistic.
This is the advice which I will give to my little sister. I will get her married after she finishes her graduation (at 21) but ofcourse only to a guy who promises to support her in finishing her post graduation.
And yes,it’s not fair. I agree.

e-rocki replied to your post: Well meaning advice for Muslim girls in their early 20s: Get...

Sun, 26 May 2013 02:28:26 +0530

e-rocki replied to your post: Well meaning advice for Muslim girls in their early 20s: Get married!

Im going to unfollow you

Ok.

"Dawah is not the blog you run that only three people read. Da’wah is not a YouTube video. Da’wah is..."

Sun, 26 May 2013 02:20:05 +0530

““Dawah is not the blog you run that only three people read. Da’wah is not a YouTube video. Da’wah is how you walk and talk. Da’wah is everyday of your life.””

- Sheikh Abdul Nasir Jangda in YC2013 (via bageltard)

And this is for boys- don’t wait till you are 30 to get married.

Sun, 26 May 2013 02:17:00 +0530

And this is for boys- don’t wait till you are 30 to get married.

Well meaning advice for Muslim girls in their early 20s: Get married!

Sun, 26 May 2013 02:00:53 +0530

I am telling you this because I wish someone had told me this.
Girls, when you get in your early 20s it’s important for you to get married. Do not delay your marriage. If you get a good proposal say yes! Don’t reject good boys by giving stupid excuses.
I know getting married is scary and all. Especially because we go the arranged marriage way but trust me the consequences of delaying your marriage will be worse. I know most girls will say that they have to study, work, do something in their career and then get married- that’s what I thought. But when you really think about it, you have a lot of time to study and build a career AFTER marriage (there is no need for you to start popping out babies immediately after you get hitched).
Because there is an age for getting married and after you pass that age it will be difficult to find a good spouse and then you will have to compromise, and that’s the truth.
This realization suddenly hit me very clearly, when I decided to make a profile for my elder brother on a shia matrimonial website. When I was looking at female profiles(for my bro), I was very surprised to see that most of the girls were 19, 20, 21 i.e. under 25. They were smart,educated(pursuing), beautiful and religious! And I thought about myself, I’m 25 years old and single! In a purely arranged marriage situation, if a guy is given a choice between a 21 yr old and a 25 yr old, he will choose the 21 yr old. that’s a fact. Men prefer marrying younger girls and even if they don’t their moms prefer marrying them to younger girls!
And if you look at it from a religious perspective, marriage is half your religion and most of the dwellers of hell will be single. It is very,very difficult to stay away from sin if you are single. It is very easy for Shaitan to mislead you.

So girls, get married.
By no means, am I saying that you should rush into it and marry the first Abdul, Mehmood or Akbar who proposes. No!
You have to go about the process of spouse selection very carefully. I have read an excellent book- extremely practical which I highly recommend. It’s a must read for anyone looking to get married- Youth and Spouse Selection by Ali Akbar Mazaheri

Note: This advice is from someone who is (By the Grace of God) very successful and accomplished in her career. I am a career woman and I’ve done everything which I set out to do and more professionally and after 3 yrs of working- I’m of the opinion that having a career is good but being single isn’t and I think if I had gotten married earlier I would have had a career and a husband!
I also want to say that it’s extremely difficult for me to be so honest about this and talk about it on my blog. But I said it because someone has to say it.

Are you wondering how much a particular person you know likes you?

Thu, 23 May 2013 20:23:00 +0530

Well I have heard from a reliable person that there is a saying of Imam Ali(as) that when you want to know how much a person likes you, you must look in your heart and try to gauge how much you like that person, that person likes you as much as you like him/her.

thebeautyofislam: For anyone that lives in the Michigan area.

Thu, 23 May 2013 19:54:26 +0530

thebeautyofislam:

For anyone that lives in the Michigan area.

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Wed, 22 May 2013 21:34:44 +0530

At the hijab shop, I had a disagreement with the owner

Wed, 22 May 2013 01:05:54 +0530

It’s a very famous hijab store in South Bombay where you get wellstitched customized hijab. i went there alone to get my coat stitched And ofcourse they wanted my measurements. So I was like you can ask a female assistant to take my measurements. To my surprise the owner said that there aren’t any female asiistants to take my measurements! I was like,” what! I am not going to let the male tailor (the master, as the head tailor is called here in India) do it.”. So then they had no choice but to make my coat without my measurements.
And then when my coat finally got stitched it was a disaster and I had a mini arguement with him. I told him it was his fault that he didn’t keep a female assistant, afterall it’s a hijab shop! The owner was quiet surprised by my strong stance. He was like,”Madam, No one thinks like you do. All my customers are ok with letting a male assistant take their measurements.”
Anyway,the issue was solved with him agreeing to do alterations but he charged me for it(which I thought was unfair!).
Afterwards, he was making my bill, he asked me for my name.
I said Rizvi. So he chuckled and said more to himself than to me,”A Sayyeda, I should have known!”

I have realized that I never use tumblr to discuss all my achievements or the fun things which...

Wed, 22 May 2013 00:25:00 +0530

I have realized that I never use tumblr to discuss all my achievements or the fun things which happen in my life or the good things.

I just use it to whine and rant. It’s just a place where I write my problems.
Anyone going through my tumblr will think my life is full of problems. Which will actually be incorrect.
I have many problems but Allah has blessed me in many ways and many things.
Alhamdulillah. I think I am better off than most people and I have a lot to be thankful for.

I’ve done something really stupid and unintentionally screwed up my friends life in a major...

Wed, 22 May 2013 00:22:49 +0530

I’ve done something really stupid and unintentionally screwed up my friends life in a major way. Why?

I wish I had a time machine and could go back and undo everything :(

There is always a reason.

Wed, 22 May 2013 00:14:16 +0530

There is always a reason.

what does this mean?

Sun, 19 May 2013 19:27:07 +0530

what does this mean?

jaba-the-slut: “Nobody says anything about that” I’ve...

Sun, 19 May 2013 18:12:42 +0530

jaba-the-slut:

“Nobody says anything about that”

I’ve reblogged this about 40 times. But let me do it again.

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Sun, 19 May 2013 18:09:58 +0530

The Prophet (saw) said, "Do not delay in three matters. Prayer, when the Azan has been called. Burial, when a person has died. Marriage, when the right candidate has been found."

Sun, 19 May 2013 17:42:32 +0530

I didn’t know about the marriage hadith.

It’s a really hot sunday afternoon. very boring. everyone at home is quite irritable. I wish...

Sun, 19 May 2013 16:57:17 +0530

It’s a really hot sunday afternoon. very boring. everyone at home is quite irritable. I wish we had an AC.

baynulharmayn: Allama Tabatabai speaking about his wife: “It...

Sun, 19 May 2013 16:40:17 +0530

baynulharmayn:

Allama Tabatabai speaking about his wife:

“It was this woman who allowed me to reach this position. She has been my partner and whatever books I have written, half [of the credit] belongs to her.”

This one sentence from ‘Allāma Tabātabā’ī is sufficient as an indication of his enlightened view of women. At another time he said:

If a woman did not have importance, God would not have placed the lineage of the 12 Imāms in the progeny of Hazrat Zahra (a). Truly if a woman is noble and good she can make the entire world a rose-garden, and if she is bad she can make the world a hell…Women and men are partners, and after looking after the raising of her children, a woman must become aware and familiar with the affairs of her society.

‘Allāma Tabātabā’ī